If you’re interested in understanding dating dynamics, making healthier relationship decisions and carrying yourself with greater confidence, this bibliography is a great starting point. all of these books have helped shape the advice I give to you on a regular basis. Enjoy.
My first book, written while I was working in customer care at JDate in 2002. There are a few dated references, but I’d like to think it holds up surprisingly well. Not only is it funnier than my more recent stuff, but it’s a great place to start if you’re first dipping your toes in the online dating waters.
In my bestselling eBook, “Why He Disappeared”, I answer every single one of your lingering questions about men. Soon, you’ll understand why some men don’t want to go out with you, why others will sleep with you without committing, and why your boyfriend might not want to be your husband.
I wrote “Believe in Love,” because while dating can take a toll on your emotions, it is ALWAYS worth it to keep going. In this inspirational, must-have book and workbook, I walk you through an easy, 7-step process that gives you all the tools you need to date with confidence and optimism, and attract the man of your dreams.
This is my bible for helping women communicate effectively with men. Learn to diffuse (almost) all your arguments simply by learning a 3-step process to talk with him. It works like magic!
Quality Time. Acts of Service. Words of Affirmation. Touch. Gifts. Those are 5 ways people like to give and receive love. Learn to give and you’ll receive much more from men in return.
Whether you’re anxious and don’t believe that a man can truly love you, or fearful that if you let him in, he’ll eventually leave, this book helps you understand the effects of your behavior. Soon, you can choose a partner who is a good fit for your attachment style.
John Gottman is the Godfather of Compatibility. As a noted couples’ counselor, Gottman has studied why certain couples make it and others fail. In this book, he lays out 7 steps you will refer to, again and again, on the road to the altar.
Lori Gottlieb knocks it out of the park with a comprehensive look at the plight of highly successful, educated women in their frustrating quest for love.
Dr. Ali Binazir uses his deep knowledge of the mind and Eastern philosophy to create a must-read manifesto for smart, strong, successful women. It’s brainy stuff, but it’s a worthwhile venture.
Dr. Pat Allen lays out some important concepts that I use in my own coaching, involving “feminine energy” and the lifecycle of relationships. She’s a Los Angeles legend, a woman I actually consulted for advice before getting married, and she really knows her stuff.
Written from a place of deep caring and experience, Syrtash points out that what we think we want, and what’s really good for us are often two different things. If this wise book doesn’t jolt you out of your old, broken dating patterns, nothing else will.
Dr. Diana Kirschner has written one of the most practical books I’ve ever read by a therapist. There’s no dense psychobabble, just honest, wise, commonsense solutions to help you learn to connect and communicate with your romantic partner.
One of the only books on this list that I haven’t read, it focuses on one of the most important topics facing smart, strong, successful women today: feminine energy.
Like me, Suzanne Venker is a type A writer who empowers women by telling the truth. More than any other writer I know, Venker empathizes with men and illustrates how alpha females like you can bring out the best in your partner.
Rachel Greenwald interviews 1000 men and learns that 85% of the time, it’s not just “chemistry” that prevents him from calling you back. It’s something you actually did on the date. Knowledge is power, and, by reading this book, you’ll immediately learn what you’ve inadvertently been doing wrong, and how to course-correct on your next date.
Don’t let the title scare you off. Whether you’re a nice guy or a nice girl, if you’re finding that you get walked all over in relationships, this is the book for you. Learn how being nice is a pathology of its own, and how you can still be a good person and stand up for what you believe in. In fact, you’ll attract a better partner when you do.
Same idea as “No More Mr. Nice Guy”, except written specifically for women. While not written by a doctor, it offers practical advice as to how a little confidence and backbone in dating can go an extremely long way.
Distasteful though it might be, this bestseller is an amazingly well-told story about a society of pick-up artists and how they manage to manipulate and seduce women. If you want a good read — closer to a novel than a self-help book — you’ll marvel at how shy, nerdy guys, armed with information, quickly turn into toxic players. A great look inside the insecure male mind.
If “The Game” told men how to talk to women, Screw Cupid shows women how to fearlessly approach cute guys. Using Scholfield’s very funny anecdotes — she used herself as a human guinea pig — you can overcome your fear of rejection and make the right guy fall for you.
The granddaddy of this genre, and a highly worthy read. I don’t think men and women are as different as Gray makes us out to be, but I do think that understanding our few differences is essential.
My sister said it right: it’s not a book; it’s a bumper sticker. But it’s a very important bumper sticker. If a man’s not giving you the effort that you deserve to feel safe in the relationship, he’s not your future husband. Move on.
Ken Page really does go deeper — at least deeper than I do — and that’s a good thing. His thoughtful guide is equal parts practical and spiritual — and will help you discover the power of intimacy in dating.
This was given as a gift to me and you should get it as a gift for your best guy friend. Ali Adler is a lesbian television writer who humorously teaches men how to better understand and connect with women. Sound familiar?
Dr. Helen Fisher explains the neurobiology behind love and how it’s adapted and evolved. Chemistry, she feels, is an adaptive function designed to help us overcome the impracticality of monogamy. The high feeling of being “in love” mirror the high feeling of doing cocaine, lighting up the same brain centers. This, and other fascinating research, will illuminate your understanding of why we love.
Elizabeth Gilbert, of Eat, Pray, Love fame, writes a memoir and exploration about marriage. With sparkling prose and clear-eyed research, she points out the many benefits of marriage and the value of having a realistic set of expectations.
Jillian Straus takes a sociological look at why Generation X has remained single for far longer than our parents’ generation. Money, unrealistic expectations, gender equality, Hollywood fantasy, abundant opportunity — you name it, and my generation’s suffering from its consequences. If you’re born between 1965-1976, this explains your singledom as well as anything.
An incredibly wise book, explaining why arranged Indian marriage is as successful — or more successful — than Western-style dating. Bound by the desire to grow and commit together, Indian couples are often happier than American couples. Seth never suggests that we should adopt arranged marriage, but illustrates how having a realistic set of expectations creates healthier long-term relationships.
Christopher Ryan makes an overwhelming case as to why we’re not a biologically monogamous species and what that means for our society. I’m not a fan of open marriage, but this is a compelling read on why monogamy may be problematic long-term issue.
Esther Perel is best known for her viral TED talk about managing waning sexual desire within a long-term relationship. If you ever thought you were abnormal for not wanting sex as much over time, this is a must-read.
Like The Tipping Point and Freakonomics, this book presents a paradigm shift in thinking about modern society. In fact, more choices do NOT make us happier as people. Reading The Paradox of Choice literally changed my decision making in regards to dating overnight, and helped me have the courage to choose the woman who would become my wife.
Jonah Lehrer’s book is crucial to understanding how humans make decisions — and thus, how you can make better relationship choices. He points out how all decisions should be partially guided by logic and partially guided by emotion. In love, you’re usually way too emotional, which explains why you need to be more objective about your partner.
Dan Ariely loves to point out — thru often entertaining science experiments – how we don’t always act in a rational manner. Sounds a lot like love to me. The more you can understand your own biases and shine the light in your blind spots, the less likely you will be to make healthy choices in life and love.
Ariely’s second book explains the effects of our irrational behavior. And if you get this book only because it helps you understand that passion (for anything!) fades over time, it’s well worth the read.
With compassion — and anecdotes — Christine Hassler illustrates the importance of not getting too high or too low when life doesn’t live up to our wildest dreams. Armed with this information, you can learn, persevere, and achieve the happiness you deserve.
This is the book that I would write if I were a better researcher, scientist and writer. Want to understand how to choose a long-term partner that’s meant to last? Jonah Lehrer will inspire you the way he inspired me.
A deeply researched book from this Northwestern University professor, which uses science and charts to illustrate the same concepts I teach in Love U: there are more great marriages than ever before and there are best practices to creating one yourself. A must-read.
I read this book to raise well-adjusted children, but discovered it had a powerful message for women who are insecure, were abandoned, or have anxious attachment styles. Read this to tame your inner fears when it comes to men.
If you wonder if you’re emotionally healthy enough to even be in a relationship, you must read this. Belying its spiritual title, this book is filled with practical metaphors designed to empower you to let go of the negativity and fear of the past. This may be the most important book you ever read.
Like the Untethered Soul, except endorsed by Oprah, and a little harder to read. If you struggle with your own happiness and want to see how you are the common denominator in your life, Tolle helps you find a more Zen mindset.
The best dating book, just not written for dating. A lot of my philosophy is cribbed from Dale Carnegie’s timeless advice. Because whether you’re in dating or in sales, ultimately, it’s all about getting people to like you. With confidence, enthusiasm, and a keen understanding about what makes people tick, the author passes along his remarkable wisdom to you.
A Dale Carnegie disciple, Frank Bettger was a top insurance salesman in the 1930’s, who figured out why people trusted him with their lives and money. In similar old school fashion, he lays out his theories, which double as incredible dating advice. A crystal-clear primer on human behavior and relationships.
A powerful book about confidence, uniqueness, and belief in your own value as a person. Godin is a marketing expert who is talking about how to make yourself indispensible at work, but he may as well be talking about how you need to be the leader of your own life, in every respect.
Do you stay with the wrong men for too long? Accept unacceptable behavior? Believe you’re not worthy of lasting love? This book is the perfect ass-kicking remedy if you constantly suffer from unhealthy boundaries and low self-esteem.
In this searing and realistic book about the trade-offs within relationships, you can test out the theory of “passion vs. comfort”. Each chapter alternates between what would happen if the protagonist chose her safe live-in boyfriend or left him to pursue a more exciting alpha male. The results are predictable, but no less powerful.
An epic tale that spans most of the 20th century. One of those books that just makes you feel human and awed about the lengths people go to pursue romantic love.
Written approximately every 10 years from 1960 to 1990, this series traces the romantic life of “Rabbit” Angstrom, a WASP former high-school basketball star who feels trapped in his marriage. The remarkable thing, is that, in Updike’s hands, Angstrom feels sympathetic, a pitiable fool unable to control his mediocre impulses, rather than an unfaithful monster.
Certainly not a conventional love story — Garp’s characters wrestle with feminism, ambition, parenthood, marriage, sex, and infidelity. This is the only book I’ve read three times and it changes every time I read it based on where I am in my life.
Now THIS is a romantic love story that swept me away. Take my word for it, read it in a weekend and thank me later.
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